Friday, July 18, 2014

Dayenu.....

Dayenu is a song that Jews sing during a Seder thanking G-d for all the ways he/she has blessed us.  The translation is that it would have been enough to save us from the locusts, or the other plagues, but G-d kept us safe through our entire journey..  It is a song about gratitude.  And in the last few months, as I have settled into my new home...I can finally understand that gratitude.  I truly feel that gratitude.   I recently took a vacation.  One purpose for this vacation was to spend time in my home.  Soaking up the joy I feel at having a place of my own.  When I lived in Florida, I always lived with somebody else.  Frequently, it was at the invitation of someone who wasn't sure they wanted me there.  So my housing was tenuous.  That is a frightening place to be.

It has truly changed since I moved to Tennessee.  After a little trial and error, I  found a place that feels like mine.  Without much money, it has been decorated with castoffs, Goodwill, and donations from friends/family.  Nothing has cost very much.  And I would not  hesitate to tell you....it is the most beautiful place I've ever lived. I'll spare you from a discussion about how I've economized and what each piece cost.  But I will tell you that it has been amazing to see a house become a home.  And with each piece of furniture and decorative article...it reminds me of Dayenu.  It is truly just enough.

Last week, I spent time with a friend choosing material for the cushions on my wicker couch.  Which was bought at a yard sale.  It will have homemade cushions courtesy of this friend, who can sew.  Restoring this piece of wicker furniture has been fun.  It has given my friend and I time to chat.  Along with the cushions, she is giving me a memory of great conversation.  How absolutely wonderful.  Is all of this good for my mental health?  Yes.  From the time that I grew up in the filth that was part of the impact of living with Maxine and her illness, I have struggled to find home.  Now, I have found it.  It is my home.  To love and enjoy.  I feel the gratitude.  And I celebrated it during my vacation.  Sitting in my space looking out my windows.  Reading.  Writing.  Cooking for myself.  Dayenu...it would have been enough.  I am so thankful to be at this place in my life.

Please let me know how you can relate to this.  People living with mental illness have a hard time feeling at home...mentally and physically.  If you can relate, I would love to share your journey.  Looking forward to talking with you...

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