As I have
talked about before, one of my favorite bloggers is BGIM. (Black Girl in Maine) This blog is written by a black woman who
lives in Maine in a primarily white area. She talks about the reality of living
in a place in which people really don’t recognize what prejudice is. Nor do they see how they show their
prejudices. She is a minority in a white state, and because of that she knows how it feels to be an ‘outsider’.
She discusses racism. And explores the reality of racial relations
and how differences in culture impact her relationships. Her blog is honest. I love this blog because she raises the big
questions. In spite of our denials, we
don’t live in a post-racial era. And
BGIM uses her experiences and insights to prove that is the case. For those of you interested in exploring the
reality of race relations in this country, her blog is excellent reading. I have been particularly moved by the way she
brings these issues down to the personal level.
Why am I talking
about this? Because BGIM recently wrote
an article that included thoughts on the difference between tolerance and
acceptance. I thought it was an
excellent post. Here is the link: http://bit.ly/15lXvvR . Of course, her focus was on race. But, I
believe this article also had a lot to say about the treatment of the mentally
ill in our country. Sometimes we
tolerate the mentally ill. Rarely do we
actually accept them. I found an example
as I looked at a letter regarding building a treatment center in a particular
neighborhood. Here is the link to the letter:
http://bit.ly/1952srB . As you can see, this neighborhood fought
having a treatment facility built. They won. But ultimately, it was a loss. I am sure that if you spoke to the people who
put their heart and soul into fighting this facility, they would tell you that
they have sympathy for the mentally ill.
But they don’t want ‘them’ feeling like they can come into their
neighborhood. In this belief system, you
see evidence that is at the core nothing more than the feeling that somehow the
mentally ill are the ‘other’. It
confirms that the mentally ill are people to be avoided. It makes ‘them’ somehow outside of
society…different and frightening. It’s
an example of tolerance, in my opinion. (I
recognize you are there. But I don’t
want you near me.)
How would
acceptance look? People wouldn’t hold
the mentally at arms length as a frightening ‘other’ to be kept away from
normal, civilized people. We would
recognize that the sheer numbers of those struggling with mental illness prove
that the ‘other’ really is us. Our
families, loved ones, and friends. Given
the reality of the numbers, most of us are dealing with mental illness. While you may rationalize a difference
between a seriously and chronically mentally ill individual and your buddy Tom
who sometimes has depression and anxiety, it is only a matter of degree. The fact is that the serious and chronic
schizophrenic and Tom are suffering from the same thing. An illness which manifests itself in the brain
and in the behavior of the individual. Being
frightened of having a treatment clinic for the mentally ill located in your
neighborhood is pretty much the same thing as being frightened of a cancer
clinic. It shows lack of
compassion. And it shows that you may
tolerate people who have mental illness, but you certainly don’t accept them.
As you look
at yourself and your community, do you see how tolerance vs. acceptance shows
up? Do you hold human beings out there
as an ‘other’ due to the fact that they are ill? How can that be destructive to you and your
community? Maybe it is time we looked at
our attitudes. What do you think?
(I really do recommend reading BGIM. She will challenge your ideas!)
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