As I have written
many times in this blog, one of the most important recovery tools in the
toolbox is having support. We have
discussed the use of support groups, and the importance of friendship. As I have noted many times, most people don’t
recover if they are alone too much. The
basic reason is that isolation increases your risk of getting stuck in your own
“stinking thinking” as identified by those who attend 12-step groups. Many times, having a support system to do for
you what you can’t or won’t do for yourself makes all the difference. I am
certainly a great example of what a support system can do for you. I have been steadily working towards creating
a new life in my new home. When I got to
Tennessee, I had an immediate support system in my daughter and her best
friend. I had housing. I had food.
And I had wonderful emotional support.
Whenever I got down or hopeless, I had built-in cheerleaders to tell me
that I could do it. Sometimes I have
relied on that. I need to hear the
positive on a regular basis in order to maintain my own more positive mind-set.
Now, I am
working towards establishing some independence.
I have taken a job that is outside of the house in order to have regular
times that I am with people. For me, the
isolation that defined my at-home business is one way to make sure that I stay
depressed. Seeing people makes a big
difference. I was also lucky enough to
be employed at a place where I have a huge jump on the creation of a loving
support system. In a way, it almost
feels like family. Which I am finding to
be an extraordinary gift. Nowhere is
that more obvious in my search for housing.
I needed to find a place near to my job.
I needed a small place that feels safe and ‘homey’. One of my new ‘best buds’ from work helped me
find my housing. She kept her eyes out
for an appropriate place for me and is the primary reason for my finding what I
needed. L. is extraordinarily
supportive. We have experienced many of
the same things in life. We are in the same
age-group. I have someone who ‘gets it’
when I talk about what I am struggling with.
In
addition, there are many people at work who show they care for me in that all important
way that a support system does. My boss
is even very concerned for my welfare.
He shows that by being very willing to go out on a limb for me. He has supported me through the tough
times. And when I am struggling with the
difficulties of navigating a life without a car, he has been willing to offer
suggestions. It is nice to have this
level of support. Sometimes I am overwhelmed
and a bit embarrassed by it. But it is
truly needed. Because I am human. And we all need the support of other human
beings. Whether we admit it or not.
Do you
recognize the need for a support system?
Do you look towards family and friends to create that support? Or do you isolate? If you are living with mental illness,
finding open and accepting people to ‘support’ your recovery is important. And looking for that support system should be
one of your first actions as you work on recovery. Whether you find that support system at work,
online, or in face to face support groups, it is crucial. I truly encourage you to begin working on creating
that support system for yourself today.
Let me know if you need suggestions on how to do so. I would love to be your first step in reaching
out. I really do care. Don’t suffer alone and in silence.
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