I’ve talked
about my naïve belief that I am the only one to have mental health difficulties
before. When I was a child, I really did
believe that we were the only family in the world to deal with mental
illness. Since I am now an adult, I have
come to the realization that I’m not unique. But sometimes that old mind-set rears its
head, and I find myself remembering all over again. There are many individuals
and families that deal with mental illness in some form or the other. And there is a wide-range of severity. Some people live very successful lives and
are impacted minimally. And others are
debilitated, finding a heavy impact in almost every area of life. Periodically, I am reminded that I don’t
always know what someone is dealing with until they tell me. Since I am open with people about MY
struggles, they frequently open up to me.
I have a new friend. She is a
wonderful person. I have spoken to her
about my issues many times. She has been
totally supportive. As a matter of fact,
she has been amazingly supportive. When
I was dealing with the very real impact of not having my medication, I relied
on her support considerably. Her
kindness was inspirational. She
certainly didn’t enable me. She just
encouraged me to be the best I can be and to do what is necessary to take care
of myself. She is young, and so I was
very touched by her wisdom.
I was
honored when she took a risk and confided her experience to me. Apparently, she has an anxiety disorder that
sometimes makes her life difficult. She
is medicated. And while there are many
people willing to share difficulties with mental health (like me), there are
others who are not particularly willing to share. So, when she took a risk and told me, I felt
very trusted. Again, I was struck by some
thoughts as she shared what has gone on for her:
- There are MANY people who have challenges that result from some type of mental illness. You won’t know who has lived through a mental illness unless they share it with you. Many times people look ‘normal’ on the outside.
- Even what seems like a milder form of mental illness can have a huge impact on the way you live your life and your ability to function. So, don’t presume to judge about what someone is dealing with. You really can’t stand in someone’s shoes. Different people are impacted in different ways. However, you can empathize with someone using your own experiences. Remember how you have been impacted. And you can recognize that there are some commonalities in terms of impact that you can use to understand what someone is experiencing. Even if you have never experienced mental illness, you can empathize with the fact that someone is telling you they have a disease. Illness always takes a toll on people.
In short,
talking with my friend reminds me of the importance of compassion. It also reminds me that I am not alone. The numbers of people dealing with a mental
illness in any given year convinces me of that.
It could be anybody. I have to
admit that I thought of this person as totally healthy and together. I was a bit surprised to hear that she
struggles. I shouldn’t have been. To be
human means we struggle. It shouldn’t be
something shameful. It also shouldn’t
have been a surprise to me.
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